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Bit by bit, macho stereotypes lose ground in U.S.
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NEW YORK: Traditionally, the American male was measured against the stoic hero who shook off all doubts, vanquished all foes and offered women a muscular shoulder to cry on.

But that was before feminism, gay-rights activism and metrosexuals. Husbands took on a greater share of housework and child care. The military welcomed women and gays. A romantic movie about gay cowboys, “Brokeback Mountain,” won three Oscars. And this week, the ground shifted under the hypermasculine realm of America’s most popular professional sport: The National Football League, it seems, will soon have its first openly gay player.

Countless American men are trying to navigate these changes.

“Men are conflicted, ambivalent,” said James O’Neil, a psychology professor at the University of Connecticut who has written extensively on men’s struggles over gender roles.

“On one hand, they’ve been socialized to meet the old stereotypes.” he said. “On the other hand, particularly for men in their 30s and 40s, they begin to say, ‘That’s not working for me. It’s too stressful.’ They’re looking for alternative models of masculinity.”

For other Americans, the upheaval is a good sign.

“Ultimately, confusion about modern masculinity is a good thing: It means we’re working past the outmoded definition,” journalist Ann Friedman wrote in a nymag.com article last fall titled “What Does Manhood Mean in 2013?”

After World War II, at least on the surface, there seemed to be an overwhelming consensus of what American manhood was all about. It was typified by Gary Cooper and John Wayne on the movie screen, by the U.S. soldiers on foreign battlefields, by the executives with homemaker wives and no corporate worries about gender diversity.

The feminist movement that emerged in the 1960s fueled significant, though gradual, changes in many Americans’ perceptions of gender roles and stereotypes. By now, although women remain underrepresented as CEOs, they comprise close to half the enrollment in U.S. medical and law schools and are being welcomed into military combat units.

Perceptions of manhood and masculinity have evolved. Surveys show that husbands are handling far more housework than they used to, though still less than their wives. Football icon David Beckham proved that a sports star with a celebrity wife could embrace flamboyant fashion without losing his fans.

“The women’s movement showed that women didn’t want to be restricted by their gender role, and it’s opened things up for men to not be restricted as well – they can be stay-at-home dads, they can be nurses,” said Bonnie Grabenhofer, a vice president of the National Organization for Women, though from her perspective the pace of change has been “agonizingly slow.”

Fatherhood remains a key element in the discussion of masculinity. Christopher Brown, president of the National Fatherhood Initiative, notes that the military is investing more energy these days in supporting soldiers’ roles as parents.

“Fathers are really embracing that broader role,” he said. “It’s become accepted that they can share more of the work and more of the joy.”

Among the growing cohort of stay-at-home dads is Ben Martin of Massachusetts, husband of a doctor.

In a telephone interview, Martin, 35, said his goal “is to be as good a husband and father as I can be.”

Still, Martin says he knows few other stay-home dads. “I get curious looks sometimes when I drop the kids off at school,” he said. “It’s a little isolating at times.”

Gays as well as heterosexuals have played a role in the changing concepts of masculinity. Michael Sam, who this week told the rest of the country what his university coaches and teammates already knew, is already helping break down stereotypes about gay men.

But there were many examples before him, including Olympic diving champion Greg Louganis. Louganis, while still in the closet, impressed the world with his fortitude at the 1988 Seoul Olympics by winning the gold medal despite suffering a concussion in a preliminary round.

“When it comes to gay men, the script is being rewritten,” said Sarah Kate Ellis, president of GLAAD, a leading lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender advocacy organization. “It’s a wonderful thing happening as the definition of manhood evolves, and it becomes more inclusive of more types of men.”

 
A version of this article appeared in the print edition of The Daily Star on February 14, 2014, on page 13.
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Story Summary
Traditionally, the American male was measured against the stoic hero who shook off all doubts, vanquished all foes and offered women a muscular shoulder to cry on.

This week, the ground shifted under the hypermasculine realm of America's most popular professional sport: The National Football League, it seems, will soon have its first openly gay player.

Countless American men are trying to navigate these changes.

The feminist movement that emerged in the 1960s fueled significant, though gradual, changes in many Americans' perceptions of gender roles and stereotypes. By now, although women remain underrepresented as CEOs, they comprise close to half the enrollment in U.S. medical and law schools and are being welcomed into military combat units.

Perceptions of manhood and masculinity have evolved.

Gays as well as heterosexuals have played a role in the changing concepts of masculinity. Michael Sam, who this week told the rest of the country what his university coaches and teammates already knew, is already helping break down stereotypes about gay men.
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